Recently, I was at CVS picking up some ibuprofen when I saw two kids who appeared to be about eight running around.
While I was standing in line, one of the boys pulled out his iPhone and started playing a game. I looked at what he was buying and his little basket contained a can of Monster energy drink, a big bag of Swedish Fish, and a Hershey bar.
I was wondering what this child’s behavior would be like after he ingested all the items he bought. Images of Beavis (from Beavis and Butthead) popped into my head when I pictured the scene. My next thought was, “how would the parents react? Would they scream at him”?
This little observation made me think about life in general. How often do people blame others for their circumstances when they themselves are at least partially to blame? If this little kid came home, slammed his Monster energy drink and had some Swedish Fish as a chaser, do you think the parents screamed at the kid when he was bouncing off the walls? Or, do you think they were patient and said “well, we did give him free reign to go to the store and buy whatever he wanted while we sat and watched college football all afternoon. Let’s give him a break and have a talk with him when he settles down”? I am guessing the former is the more likely scenario.
Maybe You Will Think Of the Little Kid Drinking Monster Next Time You Are In A Bad Situation
So, next time you find yourself in less-than-ideal circumstances, even if it is as simple as dealing with a poorly behaved child, pause and think honestly about how you got to that point. Obviously, some situations are just plain bad luck. However, often times, both good and bad circumstances are caused by a long history of certain actions. If you spoiled your child for years, don’t expect them to suddenly accept hearing the word ‘no’ with grace, even if you are out in public. If you find that other people are always getting promoted when you feel you ‘deserve it more’, then step back and think about why you aren’t getting promoted instead of just saying your boss hates you. If you are someone that rarely helps someone out, don’t be surprised when people suddenly aren’t available to help you one day. Life is full of connections. Call it karma, call it social responsibility, call it whatever you want. Most of our actions are all tied together, and quite often, events are not just random.
The fact that my kids all have messy rooms though is the exception to the cause-and-effect rule. Must be a genetic flaw or something, because I keep the house spotless…