I think I need to stop reading articles on the internet to save my sanity.
So I was looking around Yahoo Finance and I saw an article from the Associated Press titled “Children excluded from school shopping?”.
The gist of the article is this: Parents aren’t bringing their kids school shopping because kids want expensive school supplies and ‘cool’ things. So, the parents are sneaking out and buying school supplies alone, or ordering them online.
My Personal Message To Parents:
YOUR KIDS DO NOT RUN THE HOUSE AND YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SAY NO TO THEM.
Oh my gosh, I cannot stand to read stories like this. One mom in the article took her child back-to-school shopping, and the child really wanted a pair of $8 titanium scissors from Staples because they looked so cool. Instead of buying the cool scissors, mom went out like a thief in the night and bought a $3 pair of scissors at Wal-Mart. (Congratulations Mom, for not giving in and buying ‘cool’ scissors. Heaven help us all that scissors now have to be purchased behind our children’s back.)
Kids Also Are Left At Home Because Parents Know The Kids Won’t Want To Go Store-To-Store Comparison Shopping??
I cannot imagine not taking my kids with me when shopping for school clothes. Since my kids are all teens now, I am sure the sizes would be all wrong if I just pulled them off the rack and brought them home. The last thing I feel like doing with my time is buying a bunch of clothes for my kids, beg them to try them on, and then take them all back because they fit wrong. I wouldn’t care if my kids begged me for every fashionable thing out there when shopping, I would just say ‘no’ repeatedly, and drag then around from store to store trying to find items at a reasonable price. Fact is, I don’t care if my kids complain. If I am going to buy them clothes and other items they need for school, then they can spend an afternoon of their life trying on clothes they will wear during the school year. Basically, until one of my kids pays me to be their personal shopper, they are coming with me, and if they complain, then that is one less item they will be getting.
General Tips For Parents:
OK, I have come up with a few things parents should do so that they do not create entitled, whiny adults. They are as follows:
- You are the adult, and you should always demand respect. Don’t let your kids tell you what to do.
- You are a parent and not a best friend. Sure it is great to have a good relationship with your child, but there still needs to be boundaries so the child does listen to you and respect you as an elder. If you spend all your time being their best buddy, then there is a good chance that you will have a hard time really disciplining them when it comes to some of the real important things in life that can have life long consequences. (Drinking, smoking, skipping school, etc.) In essence, it is OK if your child does not ‘like’ you every minute of your relationship.
- Ignore ‘pressure’ to buy what the child wants. Until your child has a job and can buy what they want, they should have limited say in what is purchased.
- Talk to your kids about your financial situation. Many families have gone through real financial crises over the last few years. If your kids are used to getting whatever they want and suddenly they can’t, then you shouldn’t be surprised if they throw a fit if you say no to their request to buy them hundred dollar shoes. If your finances are tight, you need to explain that to the kids. (If your finances are not tight, you should still discuss finances with your kids.) Every aspect of life can be a learning experience. Showing your children how to save money and stretch a dollar can be a very valuable, lifelong lesson.
- If you haven’t spoiled your kids already, then don’t ever spoil them. (If you have spoiled them, it is never too late to undo it, but make sure you communicate and explain why the child is suddenly not getting everything they want.)
- Live like money is tight all the time, whether it is or not. I am not saying you should live like you are on the brink of bankruptcy. However, if you spend like each dollar is truly valuable and not just something to toss around, then thatexamplewill hopefully carry into adulthood for your children.
- Take your kids shopping with you. Show the kids how using coupons and shopping during off season sales can really save a lot of money. Have them help you make decisions on what is a good deal and what isn’t. Get them in the mindset that most items do not have to be bought that minute, but can be purchased when either a coupon comes in the mail or the item goes on sale. If you can eliminate impulsive shopping habits in your kids now, you will be doing them a huge favor later.