If I have learned anything about life, it is that you can never, ever predict what will happen next. You can plan for the future, but often, those very carefully laid plans can get thrown right out the window in the blink of an eye.
Each time life gives these little shifts, it quite often provides a new perspective.
These perspectives can last a little while, or a lifetime. If you gain a perspective that makes you appreciate the people in your life more, then do anything you can to hold on to it. Quite often for myself, these new perspectives make me understand other people better. Even when change is difficult and painful, at least there is something positive that I can usually learn from it. (Although I still usually wish the bad change never happened, regardless of what I have learned!)
Nobody promised life would be easy. Priorities change, focuses shift, it is just part of life. I have read many times that what matters is how you react to a certain event that matters, not so much the event itself. I guess if we could all just go out there and say “I am going to happily accept whatever negative consequences come my way”, then life would be much easier. But it takes time to accept things, and it isn’t always like you can just flip a switch and gain a whole new attitude, no matter how much you want to.
So, if something happens that you do not welcome, take time to process the event and appreciate any good that may come of it, if there is anything good that is. Don’t beat yourself up over your reaction, emotions cannot usually be controlled so easily. If you see someone else going through a rough time, do not judge, even if you do not understand why the person feels the way they do.
Have you ever experienced a negative event and ended up better off because of it?